Future parents, never say these phrases to your children
The way you talk to your children influences the way they see the world and themselves as people. "Verbal abuse" can cause more harm than you think.
Parents often use sentences without thinking, and these can do more harm than good. From the day they are born to their development until they become adults, children are authentic information sponges. Everything that is told to them stays with them for life. Hence it is very important to be sure that the children do not get hurt, forever, by the words used.
Children who are victims of the so-called "verbal abuse", can suffer damage to brain architecture, leading them to suffer anxiety disorders, aggressiveness or difficulties in social relationships. Often parents have no idea of the words they say, and that's the main problem.
"YOU DRIVE ME CRAZY"
Children are not responsible for the emotional well-being of their parents. Parents are responsible for the well-being of children. It is essential to maintain as much calm as possible, when it seems impossible to achieve.
"DON'T DO THIS / DON'T MOVE"
These phrases do not guide the child to the intended behavior, which leaves the child confused and frustrated. Trying to set an example is the best way to take a child to the desired behavior. This example should be given by parents and, if possible, in a gestural way and not just spoken.
"STOP CRYING"
By telling a child never to cry, he is conveying the idea that one should not show emotions. It is normal to have some melodrama in children, but this is part of their normal growth. Instead of using a negative phrase, comfort it, as it will help the child gain more confidence and trust himself in the greatest adversities of life.
"TAKE CARE"
Telling a child to be careful when he is trying to show his best, in fact will only make him more vulnerable, which leads to worse things happening. Telling a child to be careful or not to do a certain thing will lead to damage in the future, because an image of someone who is not capable of anything, who is not good and who is not valued will be created. If you are afraid that something bad could happen to your child, try to stay around, but quiet and quiet.
"I WELL WARNED YOU"
The phrase that no one wants to hear, not even an adult. It doesn't help anyone at all when something bad happens. Trying to comfort the child at a moment of error is quite important, because it will make the child willing to trust and share their feelings.
